I’ve been seeing a life coach for the past few years now. It’s been the most amazing journey of self-discovery and healing. I’ve learned things about myself that have surprised me again and again. I didn’t know people could be so complicated – mostly I didn’t know that I was so complex!
I thought I knew myself pretty well – I considered myself an open type of person, somewhat humble, pretty willing to change and overall, a sort of “go with the flow” person.
As I’ve looked inward, I’ve found that I am an open type of person, quite fiery and determined, pretty willing to change, and I like to “go with the flow” – as long as I’m deciding where that flow is going! 🙂
I consider this shift in how I view myself very positive. I accept where and who I am now – with all my character traits and flaws – and see room to move forward and continually change for the better. As I’ve accepted myself more and more, I’ve become more connected with my heart. I don’t really know how else to say it, but I feel more aligned with who I am, what I’m all about and what matters most to me.
As a child, I felt pressure to fit a certain mold and attain certain credentials in life. I had a pretty charmed childhood and teen years, and I was able to pursue all my dreams – including studying to be a concert pianist, my ultimate dream at the time.
Severe illness changed the course of my life path, and over the last 20 years, I’ve worked to make sense of the new life path I now find myself on. But my hard work has paid off, and now I feel more connected with my heart and life purpose than I’ve ever felt in my whole life.
In my early 20s, I thought my life destiny was to be a concert pianist and tour the world on stage. Life took me on a different road, and thank goodness! Because today, I feel 1000x more connected with my purpose than I ever did before I got sick.
What does it feel like to be connected with my heart and life purpose? To me, I compare it to how I felt when I was on my other journey where I was pursuing a worthy ambition and career – but that just wasn’t right for me.
Back then I felt:
- Worried I’d fail
- Pressure to succeed
- Pressure from parents
- Pressure from teachers
- Pressure from mentors
- Never good enough
- Fiercely competitive
- Imbalanced in work/play (I practiced piano 6 hrs/day as a 16 yr old)
- That I had to prove my worth
Now I feel:
- That my job is easy
- Passionate about my work
- My truth comes out all the time!
- I say what’s on my mind
- I’m sincere
- That I’m talented
- No pressure to succeed
- I’m enough as I am today
I went from feeling horrific pressure and severe self-doubt, to peace and happiness in what I do and who I am. So what is it that I’m so passionate about?
Today my true passion is helping people. I love to help people with their health, life, emotions, and dreams and to create a life they love. It’s hard for me to describe how much I love doing this, and how connected with my purpose I feel today. It feels like this is what I’ve always been meant to do and be. It’s an awesome and powerful place to be.
So, is it possible to foster better feelings of connectedness to your heart and life purpose? I think it is.
Here are a few things that might help you on your journey of self-discovery.
- Ask yourself if you’re happy.
This is a great clue to see if you’re fulfilled where you are. If you’re not, write out what it is that stands in your way to happiness. This is the beginning of self-discovery, and as you write out what it is that’s holding you back, then write next to each item 3 ways you could make changes to remove the barrier to your happiness.
2) Ask yourself if you feel fulfilled
If you are happy, but feel like there is something still unfulfilled in your life, begin to assess what that could be. Perhaps you dislike your job or you feel your contributions in life are largely unnoticed or not meaningful to yourself or others. Again, next to each item, write out 3 ways you could make changes.
3) Make changes
Now that you’ve written lists of ways you could make changes to greater happiness and fulfillment come the hard part – making the changes. If you have an idea of what to change, be courageous and change!
Back before I was connected with my true core, I always felt like something was missing somehow. I couldn’t put my finger on it, and I didn’t know exactly what it was I needed to pursue, but I kept getting clues of what I should do and where I should put my time, energy and focus in life.
It was a very long journey of searching for me, but now that I’m connected with my true heart and life focus, I feel whole every day. There’s nothing missing anymore.
If you’re getting a feeling you should do something different, that you should shake things up in your life and change the status quo, do it! I promise that on the other side of change is everything you’ve ever wanted.